The Attraction and Enigma of Cross Cultural Relationships

In ordinary marriages today it is obvious that the woman is the centre of everything. It still is a matriarchal society although it is male dominated.

Namely, men have for centuries tried to keep women down out of fear but it has been at a great cost to them and a suppression for women; just look at the countries where the customs are so alien to westerners that it is beyond comprehension.

This does not mean westerners are any better, it just means their methods of keeping women down have been more subtle.

The point is that there is often a natural attraction to women from other cultures and vice versa and the way is being made more popular and accepted by the social median networks that abound these days. Many are hoping for relationships and it is likely they will come from online connections.

For me personally this is far too slow a method as I prefer things to move faster than the often long winded online discussions and chat that sometimes lead many down the road of false hope and bitter disappointment and emotional devastation.

If I were looking for a relationship and one did develop online I would get on a plane quickly to meet her to see if it was just online banter. In fact I would never look for a relationship online; it is just not my way.

What is helpful for anyone going down this road of cross cultural relationships, whether they meet online or otherwise, is to remember that it is almost a rule with few exceptions that the relationship will be successful if the woman follows the man into his country, culture and family.

After all the man in traditional relationships is there to serve with love and the woman is there to take it with love. If the woman follows the man with love to his country then the relationship or marriage has a chance of being successful; if it is the other way around the situation will be difficult indeed for many reasons. Marriage or relationships are difficult enough and without love or meditation worthless.

For example if a man follows the woman to her country and a decision is made to reside there permanently the tendency will either be for the woman to encourage the man to follow her into her business if she has one or support the man at least until he has a job or other opportunity.

If the man follows the woman to her country and also into her business it is more than likely he will destroy the business and particularly if he takes up a responsible position in her business.

This may seem strange but there are certain invisible laws that operate beneath the surface and which time and again have proven to be true without fail.

On the contrary if a woman joins a man in his business the business has a very good chance of success with the caution of mixing business and love especially where there is pressure around survival.

In life if people were more aware of the subtle laws that operate beneath the surface much pain, heartache, loss and misunderstanding could be avoided.